Happy and Healthy Relationships Don’t Require Hard Work.

“Relationships need a lot of hard work.”

Is it just me or do we hear that line all the time?

Guess what? A good relationship must actually be easy. 

A happy, healthy, and long-lasting relationship - friendship or romantic - grows on a fertile soil of love, compatibility, good character, commitment, and the ability to shift from reactivity to response. The nurturing of such relationships definitely takes consistent effort. Hard work? No.

The problem with encouraging the association of a relationship with hardship can lead to accepting striving, struggling, and sometimes plain misery as normal aspects of developing a close bond with someone.

If you want to harvest a happy, healthy, and long-lasting relationship, invest in seeds of ease and comfort, and commit to consistent but reasonable gardening efforts.

If a relationship takes "hard work," it’s best to do a graceful exit before making a long-term commitment.

Do you need more support? Working with an Integral Coach is one of the best method to develop and strengthen essential relationship competencies such as mindfulness, compassion, active listening and healthy communication skills.